As a long time fan and reader of the writings of Dr. Wayne Dyer, I first learned of author Bruce Lipton and his book, The Biology of Belief, from him. Curiosity got the best of me, so when a chance came up to review Dr. Lipton’s new book, The Honeymoon Effect, I pursued it.
The author invites us to look back upon our most memorable and unforgettable love affair and to recall all of those electrifying emotions and the sense of bliss that it instilled within us. What was it that was going on with us neurologically and hormonally that accounted for that profound lasting experience? How might that same experience be relived once again in a new relationship or within one you are already in?
The Honeymoon Effect is a book that lays out the compelling and factual science of why and how we became so smitten and entranced with that other person in that love affair of long ago. It all comes down to how we have evolved at the biochemical and cellular level while residing on our planet.
Some of the underlying science in this book includes:
Nature’s drive to form community among its many species. Pair coupling. The drive to bond trumps the drive to procreate. This is true for all the mammalian species of earth include ourselves.
The most fundamental form of communication among organisms are energy vibrations. The catchy “good vibes”, or “bad vibes” slang of the Sixties turns out to be rooted in hard science and physics. Positive outgoing enthusiastic people generate higher level attracting energy vibrations while negative, unhappy and/or deceitful individuals emanate lower negative energy vibrations. As young children, we all intuitively sensed this distinction in others. It was only when we entered adulthood that many of us learned to ignore messages we received energetically: “Don’t listen to your feelings. Listen to the words.”
Brain waves. There are five different frequencies. Our ability to learn, to imagine as children, to relax, and to operate at an optimum or peak performance level (in what some athletes refer to as ‘the zone’) is all related to which specific brain wave frequency state we are in and how we can alter them.
The biochemistry of love. We are “self-biologists” who create with the thoughts in our minds the love potions that control the cells and tissues in our bodies. Whether you’re in love or running from danger, your mind calibrates your blood’s biochemistry, which in turn controls your biology and genetics. The mind interprets your perceptions of the world, and your brain goes to work to produce the biochemistry that compliments your perceptions.
Between couples, you actually have four minds to contend with. Your conscious and unconscious minds and her conscious and unconscious minds. It is when the subconscious mind arises after a blissful love relationship that the glow begins to fade. Neuroscientists have found that we are able to utilize our creative conscious minds to control our behavior regulating cognitive activities about 5 percent of the time. The remaining 95 percent remains within the control of the subconscious mind.
I was surprised to learn about this conscious/unconscious mental tug-of-war that goes on in our minds and the disparity ratio of power each holds over us.
The conscious mind’s prefrontal cortex can process and manage a relatively measly 40 nerve impulses per second. The 90 percent of the brain that constitutes the subconscious mind’s platform can process 40 million nerve impulses per second. The subconscious mind’s processing ability is thus 1 million times more powerful than the conscious mind.
The subconscious mind is primarily a record/playback mechanism, unlike the conscious mind, expresses little creativity and has no sense of time. It operates always in the present moment, doesn’t see a future, and doesn’t listen or care when you yell at it.
The challenge is to bring your two subconscious minds into alignment with the conscious ones. Though the subconscious mind is a very powerful part of each of us, Dr. Lipton shows us how to set about re programming the subconscious mind via habituation , hypnosis, subliminal tapes, and energy psychology.
At the end of his book Dr. Lipton lists twenty seven different resource web sites to visit that offer tools and assistance in changing the accumulation of negative, disempowering beliefs that we have filed away in the subconscious mind cabinetry.
The factual science behind how we have evolved, how we are wired and why we teeter-totter between conscious and unconscious minds in our relationships is all presented in understandable and often humorous terms.
The Honeymoon Effect is a thought provoking and educational book that offers the promise and the tools necessary for recapturing and injecting the emotional supercharging of an unforgettable love affair into relationships we now are in or wish to initiate.
This is a great read for couples, for singles and even for parents who want to know how to better parent and nurture their children.
Jeff Dodson
June 17th 2013
FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinions expressed in this review are unbiased and reflect my honest judgment of the product.
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